You may have become the number one woman in his life, but the position of mom or sister/brother is not that easy to shift in his heart. A harmonious relationship with the husband’s family is, of course, a priority, but what if the in-laws or in-laws are among those who are difficult to discuss or compromise with.
Try these 7 tips first every time you want to start sensitive communication:
Smart in Choosing Words
Probably you are not a poet, but make sure the choice of words and methods of presentation are correct. Use a positive communication style with soft, non-offensive speech. Try to express your perspective honestly and sincerely, rather than talking at length about what they should do. Avoid the ‘offensive’ impression and aim for win-win solutions if you have to have tough discussions.
Are you sure about the choice of words that are neutral and meaningful, positive? then make sure the purpose and objectives of the conversation are clear and transparent. Better to get to the point of trouble than to ramble on. Use examples as well if you can further clarify the meaning of the discussion.
One Team Approach
One of the keys to a successful discussion with sisters-in-law or in-laws is to approach your husband first. Make sure first that your husband also understands the purpose and purpose of the discussion in question, so that he supports or can provide suggestions for ways of engaging in a more engaging discussion. In principle, present the problem from the compact side as husband and wife, without intending to demean the in-laws or in-laws.
Use Facts, Not Emotions
If there is a heated argument, it will be difficult for anyone to hold back their emotions. This is why you must have clear and factual points so that you can stay focused without running too far from problems. In conveying this fact, it is better if stated with the previous tips, namely carefully and using positive connotations.
There Must Be No Winner
Remember that every individual has different experiences, so automatically they have different perspectives and opinions. Don’t have to point your finger at the wrong party or argue to get yourself the winner. The best solution is a collective decision by means of deliberation and consensus. If it is not satisfactory, there is no need to force it right away, but step back to look for new strategies next Tim
Be a Good Listener
Know what’s hard about a discussion or problem discussion? Ability to listen to the other person. Don’t continue to take the position of “speaker” and give moments so that your sisters-in-law or in-laws share their point of view. It is possible that you can come up with a new explanation or solution once you really know what they really mean.